Angie Jackson’s brave choice

Posted in Uncategorized by macktivist on March 11, 2010

I was reading a lot about Angie Jackson today, the woman who live-tweeted her abortion. It’s so sad that now-a-days a woman getting a PERFECTLY LEGAL, NON-INVASIVE medical procedure is interviewed on CNN like she is some sort of oddity to be gawked at.

It is also a sign of how entrenched anti-choice rhetoric is in my country. It’s shocking how sexist the mainstream media is, that if you watch US television and movies whenever a female character becomes pregnant she instantaneously turns to the Cult of True Womanhood*. No matter what frivolous things like “goals” or “dreams” that she expressed interest in before she was knocked up; she now knows that she needs to give that all up to be tied legally and emotional tied to a child for 18+ years.

When reading the transcript of Jackson’s interview with CNN, I was struck by the fact that the reporter seemed to be constantly undermining Ms. Jackson’s decision n to get an abortion. Ms. Jackson very clearly stated that the abortion was vitally NECESSARY, as her doctor had told her after her first child that she wouldn’t be able to safely have another. Now, when a woman is confronted with the choices of “no abortion -> dying” vs “abortion -> not dying”, most people would take the side of “abortion”. The fact that the anti-choicers are sending her death threats is horrible but not unexpected. These “pro-lifers” have deemed women not worthy of being autonomous free beings, so the fact she is choosing herself over a clump of cells is enraging to them.

This live-tweet has not gone unnoticed in the feminist blogspheres. The article that the former director of PP Rhode Island wrote in response to Ms. Jackson, saying that she shouldn’t be out there talking about her abortion is ridiculous. Looking up the facts about abortion on web (which was a hassle within itself, as the top reasons on Google are from places like “” *eyeroll*) from the PP research, one in three American women will have an abortion in their lives. Why can’t we talk about this? Especially as more and more states pull tighter and tighter around a noose on choice’s neck.

Could you imagine if even 25% of the one in three American women did what Ms. Jackson did? If they were open and honest about their experiences, and pointed out how freeing being able to make that choice was? Of course it would make the crazed anti-choices foam at the mouth, but there would be a pro-choice revolution.

*Unless she happens to be a women of color, than she’s a terrible, unfit “Welfare Queen”. Yay sexism + racism.

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Women’s academical goals are less important than men’s, duh

Posted in Uncategorized by macktivist on March 2, 2010

I finally submitted my application to be a Non-Degree Seeking Graduate student at the UA this fall. The UA has a great masters program for Speech & Hearing Science, but since I didn’t take Speech &Hearing as an undergrad I’ll need to take a year of undergrad classes as a grad student. All fine and dandy then, right?

Well, like everything it gets more complicated. My primary* boyfriend of 1 ½ years wanted to go to Law School and got accepted to a great one, albeit one almost 1000 miles away from my school.  For a while I flirted with the idea of following him where he went. I think that this idea was based on the fact that I wasn’t 100% sure about going to grad school, as the last semester of undergrad was one of the worst ever. But over the last few weeks as I have had more time to process it, I decided that I REALLY wanted to go to grad school now. If I started delaying it I could possible never end up going, just putting it off for “just one more year”. And if I was to ever reach my professional goal of becoming a Speech Pathologist, I would have to go to Graduate school sometime.

Another thing that really motivated me to decide school needed to come first wass the story my secondary* boyfriend, told me of how his mother gave up hopes of getting her doctorate to follow her (then) husband and his father to *his* dream job. As indicated by the “then” in parenthesis, they eventually divorced and she regrets the choice. I really don’t want there to be that sort of regret and bitterness between me and my primary.

Now I’m not trying to claim that my choice is the best ever, and that it will work for all people. But it is very sad that there is a pervasive societal idea that women’s professional/academic goals are less important than men’s.  It also seems that women in heterosexual relationships are told that they should care more about holding together the relationship ie. sacrificing themselves so the man in the relationship can achieve his goals, while the woman should be satiated just being in a relationship with this *wonderful, successful* man.

Thankfully my primary is very feminist and agreed with my points, and we had decided to try the whole long distance thing. It’s weird though; that there seem to be people in my life confused that I’m NOT just going with my primary (whom, as far as most of my family knows, is my only boyfriend) to his new school. When I told my mother that I was going to stay where I am in five months while my boyfriend was going to move to the Law School, she asked if we had just broken up. Like, right before I called her or something. Other people have voiced similar concerns, that now I was “making” us do long distance by not going with him. Hello? Why isn’t anyone harassing him (not that I would want them to) about going away, and therefore “making” the relationship long distance? Because I’m staying right here.

* Yes, I am non-monogamous. My primary is the person that I can see myself with for the long haul and how many other secondaries I have doesn’t change that.

Not too good at this

Posted in Uncategorized by macktivist on March 1, 2010

I’ve been really trying to write in this more often. The problem seems to be that there is so often nothing AND everything to write about. That I feel that either much better blogs have cover over in ten different ways what I want to say, or my views will be too poorly presented for in-depth subjects.

Finding your own voice/place is hard. 😦